Seeing The Forest And The Trees

Dispassionate observation is useful when struggling with choice. Options presented by life at first glance can appear confusing. Deciding how to rationalize which to pick depend on a clarified goal. The more definite objective set, the less likely one will be swayed by uncertainty, usually present to varying degrees.

Objective detachment is not the same as absent emotions; it enhances the ability to prioritize which factors are essential from those that obscure the nature of alternatives. Separating affect will not increase the likelihood of clarification or resolution . It can result in overlooking vital considerations that pertain to outcome as much as too much emotion.

Goals do not have to be specific, but they do have to lead toward a direction that one innately senses is a way that encourages growth reaffirming the justification for picking one over another. Uncertainty only serves to promote avoiding a decision until life ultimately teaches that making no choice is a choice that can have many consequences than first anticipated.

Hoping that it is possible to envision outcomes prior to choosing is an attempt to avoid the risk involved when placed in positions that require a conscious direction. Part of the excitement of a successful outcome is not just contained within the perceived positive reward, but in accomplishing something in spite of the uncertainty inherent within the nature of the options.

The greatest gift any parent can give a child is instilling the ability to appropriately access risk as they mature and face complex issues without the presence of the parents or other trusted confidants. This is essential to the development of independence which parents should want to encourage along with a sound judgment when it’s time to ask for help, and consider the opinions and advice of others. Sometimes the best council possible is none, allowing the child to struggle, knowing that within the conflict, always guided, character will be forged. Although painful, withholding advice wisely will help in the development of maturity.

If children are apt at deciding not only choices, but distinct goals that are reasonable to attain, they will move in a direction that leads to greater confidence, less frightened by uncertainty, increasingly mature toward accepting the consequences of their decisions whether it leads to success or failure.